Designing Beyond Limits: A Fresh Vision for Your Home + Self

Are the stories you tell yourself quietly shaping your life — and even your home? In this episode of The Art of Soulful Living, we dive into the hidden power of limiting beliefs and how they show up in the spaces we live in.

I’ll share:

✨ What limiting beliefs really are (and how to spot yours)

✨ Common beliefs that hold us back around home + lifestyle

✨ A simple practice to reframe your story

✨ How to turn your home into a living, breathing vision board for your future

Plus, I’ll guide you through a journaling moment to flip one of your own limiting beliefs into a new empowered truth.

If you’re ready to release old stories and create a home that reflects the life you actually want, this one’s for you.

And don’t forget — my Limiting Beliefs Workbook and Wheel of Life Workbook are now available in the Soulspace shop to help you go deeper.

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My book 'Elevate Your Home Vibe: is out now! 

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welcome back to the art of soulful living this is my third attempt of recording this podcast and this is the kind of week i am having at the moment we are all over the place there's been an eclipse a full moon home education uh i don't even know i don't know what's going on with the planets at the moment they're all over the place it's like a roller coaster um so where are we yes this week on the art of soul for living oh by the way if you've not been here before my name is Laura I am the owner of Soul Space and I work in wellness interior so it's not necessarily what colours and what patterns you want in your house although I do do that it's more about how we can link our house and our environment to live a better life on the outside which and it is intrinsically linked um i are people sometimes ask me how what has that got to do with anything that's going on in my job or what has that got to do with anything that's going on in my relationship but where your your surrounding environment where you wake up how you wake up and where you fall asleep and how you fall asleep are those two parts today by the way the most important because it bookends good days if you do it well and right and in alignment with how and what you want from life so this episode is about clearing limiting beliefs to create your dream home and life so when I talk about this people are like oh but isn't that self-development and yes it is but it's so it's so woven into the tapestry of our home in terms of if you a lot of the So let's go from the start. So when people take out my high vibe home blueprint, we literally, some people just expect me to go in there and feng shui the house and put a plant in a corner and go around with my sound bowl and then tell them what colour to paint the walls. But I do do that, but that's not necessarily the case. It's actually a lot deeper than that. So we always start with what that person's goals are for their future for how they want to live their days how do you even if you don't know what you want from the future what do you want your days to look like I think if we break it down to that it doesn't seem as overwhelming and then how you want your days to to look like always then it's all the micro habits isn't it and then it all snowballs and then before you know you're on the path you want to be on and you're heading towards your goals but before all of that you really have to clear any limiting beliefs to create this life and everybody has them there isn't one person that doesn't have them and a lot of them come from childhood so what limiting beliefs really are is how they show up in our lives so they're like almost like hidden rules that we live by we do a lot of the time we don't even know that we're doing it we don't we don't really know that this is the case it's just we are just living obviously I always say we live a lot of the time subconsciously and I think if you don't become really mindful and really work on our limiting beliefs then it's really hard to get to where you want to go whether that's in your career with friendships with a relationship it's really really difficult to get to where you need to be or want to be so common limiting beliefs around home and lifestyle are things like I'll never afford my dream home that's for someone else or I don't deserve luxury someone else needs the money more than me it's a bit excessive it's a bit disgusting um having that much wealth or money is dirty or I can't have a calm home because I've got kids I can't have a stylish home because I've got kids I can't do things because I'm time poor because I run a family I you know even me I've got loads of self-limiting beliefs and you have to really really work on them it's not you can't just make what no wave a magic wand wand and it's done with um there's so much work to do but it honestly it's so worth it once you start to unplug it and figure out why do I do this why do I go around in circles why do I say this to myself then it starts to unblock and you're like you start to have little epiphanies here there and everywhere and things start you start to get on track so um yeah right so that's limiting belief So, did I say welcome back? Anyone who hasn't been here before, I'm Laura and I'm sure I may have said this, this is literally just testament to the fact that I don't have a script and I just sit in front of a microphone just blobbing on and I don't even know what I say half the time. I just go into a zone and I'm like, have I even said hello? I don't even know. Hi. Anyway, this is one of my favourite topics, limiting beliefs and how they really quietly shape not only our lives but also our homes and if you've ever looked around your space and you think ah this isn't really me or you you just tell yourself things all the time like I don't deserve a space like that or god look at our fancy pants over there what have they got that for you know and you look down on people who have got nice things but you don't mean to but it's just just be really aware of your thoughts anyway if you feel like this then this episode is definitely for you and by the way if it really resonates with you I've just created I don't want to be one of these people that's like oh hi this is this is a podcast about limiting beliefs oh and by the way I have a limiting beliefs workbook out I actually do have a limiting beliefs workbook out but that is not why I'm talking about it it's just because I've been working on it this week and it's uploaded now onto my store on my website and it's just fresh in my mind and I keep thinking I really want to talk to people about that as it's not just about interiors and things like that it's it's how we live in our lives and this is like a huge one if you can work on your belief system and the workbook's just like a gentle step-by-step way to uncover what's holding you back and start rewriting your story um but yeah there you go that's there if you want it so what are limiting beliefs they're the quiet stories running in the background of our mind they do often come from childhood or culture or past experiences I've got loads I think also limiting beliefs it really spills into money mindset and I think once you start money mindset that can be an absolute minefield so it can feel quite overwhelming so maybe work on the work through your limiting beliefs just figure out what they are say for instance oh god where do I start I mean I've got a list as long as my arm I used to have a much bigger list but you know you work through it I think it's just a lifelong job and if it's not one thing it'll be something else will be new and you're like oh god like for instance I don't like making phone calls and I always think and in life sometimes it has held me back that I don't like talking on the phone and it all stems from when I was like 21 I just left uni and I got a really good job for a commercial interior design And he was at the start of his, I mean, now his business is absolutely enormous. But yeah, I had to leave because he was just a bit inappropriate. So I bolted. Had I not, I'd probably been... living the dream somewhere abroad at the moment but there you go that is life um but yeah he was great but he had a bit of a temper so when he got really angry he used to throw stuff And then, like, he would put down the phone and he'd be really angry. And one of the days, like, he was particularly on one and he walked in on one. I was like, oh, God. So I was constantly in survival mode anyway. But then he was like, he got so angry, he threw a stapler towards me. He wasn't directing it at me, but he just did it. So I had to duck under the desk so he didn't smack me in the face. And then another time I was in the office on my own and someone had called up and they started asking questions about the business. And to be fair, I was quite wet behind the ears. I didn't really know what I was doing. I didn't really know much at that point because it's very early on in the job. And he walked in and he heard, I mean, I didn't really give any information whatsoever. but he was like instantly put the effing phone down get off the phone there competitors get off get off the phone like literally going wild at me and I was absolutely terrified genuinely terrified to the point that I put the phone down I was like really sorry and then I went up in the lift like four floors five floors and I just went and sat there was no one on the top floor of this building and I just went and sat there for like a good 45 minutes just in trauma and then ever since then I just hate answering the phone and I hate making phone calls unless I'm on one and I've got something to say but I just don't like it so these are things that have limited me in some ways there's a quagmire of limited beliefs I have like things especially growing up I saw my mum always put herself last And she always brought us kids first and my dad first. And it was difficult, but that's what I grew up with. She never really bought herself anything new. She was always running about trying to make sure everyone else looked nice, everyone else was clean, tidy, everyone else's rooms were clean and tidy. But actually, I didn't realise until later on in life that that's not... She went without a lot, really, because she was either time poor or she'd rather spend the money on us lot rather than herself and it was really difficult actually looking back in it now because that's a little bit like what I'm like now and I'll put everyone first and so if you look around the house it looks lovely and everyone's room's really neat and tidy and all this and everyone looks nice and then even though I make when I make an effort I'll make an effort but if you open my wardrobe it's an absolute shit show it's a shit show and then only up until a couple of weeks ago I tidied up my beauty drawer like where you keep all your low and potions and before then it was a shit show because I was I've I never put the made the make the time for myself and then I put myself at the bottom of the pile and then but this is this is a belief I grew up with from childhood as a woman as a mother as a wife you just put yourself last you run around for everyone else you put yourself last and it's just naturally occurred in me and now I know the more I'm aware of it the more I realize how much I'm holding myself back in ways and then I become a bit resentful because I'm like why don't I have time to do that I'd like to go do that I like you know but actually it's my fault I'm what does Taylor Swift say I'm the problem it's me and it really really is so but the tricky part is these truths that you tell yourself every day they really they're which but they feel like truths they're actually just old programming and because our outer world mirrors our inner world these beliefs often show up in our home like me with my wardrobe so for example if you think I'm not worthy of nice things maybe it's something you grew up watching with your parents or maybe it's something you've been told by an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend but these things might show up as never invested in quality furniture or quality clothes or always keeping the cheapest option or not allowing yourself to create beauty in your own space so So common limiting beliefs around home and lifestyle are things like I said, like you want to be able to afford your own home, your dream home. Beautiful home is for other people, not me. This one gets me. With kids, I can't have a calm, stylish home. Do not believe that. I have three boys. They are not great at tidying up after themselves, but I've implemented things around the house that irritate me that can no longer happen like so for instance my stair basket yeah it probably doesn't get cleared out that often but it means I don't have loads of toys little bits little McDonald's things you know all that crap that accumulates it just naturally now goes in the basket there is one problem for that stuff it's not in the lounge in that you're not walking around standing on Lego it all gets put in this one particular place so I'm not saying because you have kids you've got to keep it all prim and proper and clean and whatever but there are ways around it as long as you've got storage and ways to implement things where you can just put it away without really thinking twice about like god I've got to go hang it all up or put it all open a box in a wardrobe above the thing I can't reach it to store everything you just want to make it easy for yourself but that's that's a whole other episode uh things like this another one that gets me people saying I'm not creative enough to design a space I love everyone is creative I hate it I go around to people's houses and they go well I'm not creative I'm not I leave that to you I'm not creative I understand there are levels of creativity everyone is creative I feel like us as humans are designed to be inspired and find things inspirational and if you can become inspired by things and we're surrounded by colour and patterns and I ideas all day every day and we can we use that to be creative now for me I used to say I'm no good at maths I'm not analytical and I'm not but I'm still capable of it and I think if I if I enjoyed it more maybe I would get better at it but when people tell me they're not creative it's just such a natural human way to be I think everyone has creative bones in their body I think you'd surprise yourself if you started telling yourself another story anyway also another one is I get a lot is it a bit selfish just to focus on my home and you know we need this and we need that and whatever and there's bigger problems in the world I don't want to be excessive I think it's money or wealth is disgusting or it's a bit it's you know people look down on people with money and wealth and I think that if you look under stories of why that's the case like when you grew up all the films and all the baddies who were rich they were all evil characters and if you look at everyone tries to paint rich people evil and it's bizarre that they think wealth is a product of um like like being disgusting or or or not and not a very nice person but it's just how society and things that we've grown up as has or even our parents have framed our shape of mind so these are really powerful things you know these are these are just a small list of limiting beliefs and they are powerful because they stop us before we even begin so they keep us stuck in survival mode instead of expansion and you know driving towards the life that we want to lead so these beliefs they then shape our environment which is where it's intrinsically linked to our homes and our environment so our homes our reflections of our nervous systems if you feel chaotic clutter often builds also i always some sticks went free in my mind someone once told me years ago that piles of papers or um like just clutter and piles of things are actually a sign of procrastination or moments where we haven't made a decision and then but then when you're staring at those piles it almost kind makes you not believe in yourself. You get a little bit Debbie Downer, don't you? You're a bit like, oh God, I've always got piles of paper or bills or I'm no good at this. You know, and it really gets to you. So it does feed your limiting beliefs subconsciously as well. If you feel unworthy, you might not prioritize making your own space feel beautiful. But also the opposite is true. When you shift a belief, your home can become an anchor for, you know, a new way of life so to begin clearing these limiting beliefs you just got to be aware be really mindful just question everything just spend a day or so just questioning everything you think notice the thought and catch yourself when you say things like I can't or I'm not the type of person who can do that or oh that's not for me and then question it and think is this really true or is this just something I've picked up on along the way was someone I was close to growing up did they used to think that did something happen in school did they used to say that to me maybe in a different way but is this where this belief comes from and then you need to reframe it you need to flip it and instead of thinking I'll never afford my dream home I'll never get there that's for them that's for that's not for me you think things like I'm going to take steps every day to create a home I love and abundance is always flowing to me I am the person that will be sat in that seat in that office in that desk I can see myself there and then you need to anchor that then into your home vision board which is where now we tie our home environment into it so choose images and words and feelings that represent your upgraded beliefs so if you don't feel worthy worthy of something sorry if anybody heard that scream it's fine it's just because my kids are extremely excited we're about to go swimming shortly and they are very very very excited anyway so where was I yeah anchor it into your home vision board so your new feelings so if you don't feel worthy put up like a quote in your bathroom and or on your journey out of the door and about like you know really positive words and feelings that represent your upgraded beliefs and plan Place them where you see them daily. Your home visual board isn't just about aesthetics, it's about nervous system training and it says this is possible and this is my new normal. So just as a mini practice now, grab a piece of paper and write down one limiting belief. When I first started this podcast, this episode, when I started talking about limiting beliefs, what's the first thing that pops up in your head? What's the one thing that you maybe been striving for but it's just not it's just not getting there like what is that one thing that pops up in your head write down this one limiting belief you have about your lifestyle or you know how you're living your life and look at it and ask yourself whose voice is this is it mine or is it something i've picked up did i pick it up from school an employer a boyfriend uh a parent a caregiver or a teacher and then flip it and then write down the new belief the opposite of that that feels expansive and true for where you're going even if you don't fully believe it yet just write it down say actually no this is who i am this is where i'm going this is what i want and that new belief even though it's just so small it's a seed And once you start watering that seed and that sticks in your head, believe me, the tide will turn. So remember, your home isn't just where you live. It is a mirror of our inner worlds. And when you release limiting beliefs, you don't just clear space in your mind, you clear space in your home for beauty, abundance and ease. So if you'd like deeper support with this, I do have my Limiting Beliefs Workbook. I don't want to harp on about it because I don't really ever want this podcast to be a reason why people buy things from me I just love I love just talking into a microphone just expressing what I feel like is just knowledge that people should know for free um but the work but if you do want extra help the workbook is designed to guide you through in covering your own hidden blocks and rewrite re re put my teeth in rewriting um rewriting your beliefs so your home and your life can finally match the vision that you really really hold in your heart thank you for joining me today on this one and you know some people go what do you talk about an interior design podcast how many times can you talk about curtains or carpets or whatever but there's so much to it it's so linked and this is the message I want to get out there to people we spend so much time in our homes like I say how we wake and how we fall asleep book ends our days and when our days feel better and we feel better and good and rested and calm and our nervous systems are regulated how we show up in our outside world in our outside life outside our home it's just so much better it will just blossom thank you for tuning in to this episode if you know anyone who would find this interesting or you've got a friend who's just maybe in a bit of a panic or going around like a hamster wheel at the moment please forward it on to her or him and check out my instagram and my website and what else did i need to tell you uh oh my this weekend my diy like not my diy my booklet my my book sorry my book on um non-toxic living my ebook on non-toxic living will be launched this weekend uh that will be on my website to buy yeah from i'm not sure when it goes up i don't know whether it's tomorrow or sunday but keep an eye out for that but obviously follow me on instagram for any updates and i think that's it i think that's all i've got to say today i mean i haven't i've got so much more but i don't want to keep harping on i could be talking about this for hours yeah so have a great weekend have a think about your limiting beliefs have a look around your home and feel all your life and just think where do I want to be you know we haven't got that long left in the year so maybe start working towards what do you want for the rest of the year as well or what do you want from or maybe you just want to give yourself a break and just think actually from January what am I going to want but yeah great to see you and I'll see you next week on the Art of Soulful Living. Thank you. Bye.